Wyomissing Boudoir | Every Woman Deserves this Experience
Miss A. had her second boudoir shoot with us at RJS in our brand new chic, downtown boudoir studio. Read what she has to say about her time with us!
I can honestly say that for a long time my relationship with my body image was non-existent. When I had my first boudoir shoot done, I wasn’t in a place where I hated my body, but I also wasn’t in a place where I actively appreciated it either. I think that my opinion of my body was often influenced by the opinions of others around me. So, if I was dating someone who told me I looked good, I felt good. But if someone pointed out that I gained weight, that became the new definition of my body image. Other people’s opinions prompted me to look in the mirror. I think a lot of women experience this. I don’t think we are taught how to validate ourselves and how draw self esteem from ourselves.
When I met Rachel, I wasn’t dating anyone. I knew that I loved her work artistically and I loved her work that she does for women in getting them to celebrate their bodies. She has been a cheerleader for me since we met, because she is truly invested in the emotional well-being of her clients. I think thats the thing that really came through to me when deciding to work with her. The cost was the only hurdle I had when deciding to do this session. Ultimately, I knew that I was going to love the results, and I knew that she was going to be able to provide me the experience I was wanting. I felt confident that the money would be worth it- so worth it I’ve come back for another session! It was truly an investment in myself- especially since I have been single for both shoots, it has truly been just for me to celebrate different parts of my journey.
I didn’t reach 100 pounds until I turned 20. I know. I have heard the gasps from women, but the truth is that we all have our own unique struggles with body image. I had a naturally small frame and fast metabolism through my teenage years. I couldn’t gain weight to save my life. But I didn’t really have animosity toward my body- I was comfortable for the most part. When I started birth control I gained 25 pounds in less than 2 months. I immediately gained stretch marks because my body was not prepared to take on that much weight so quickly. I haven’t yet had children, but I know what it’s like to have your body change so quickly that you almost don’t recognize the woman you’re looking at in the mirror.
The experience was disorienting. I went from being relatively comfortable in my own body to… unsure. I knew that the body I was looking at wasn’t hideous, but it also didn’t feel like it was ‘mine.’ I think that’s partly why I was so easily influenced by the opinions of others. Being young had a lot to do with that too.
As I get older, I have learned how to have a relationship with my body that is completely separate from the opinions of other people. Rachel was part of this journey for me. I think I needed to start having these conversations in a safe place about where I was with my body image and self esteem. I’ve learned that my body is going to look different year after year. And that it’s okay. I’m definitely becoming more comfortable with how my body fluctuates and how to mentally and emotionally handle it. Perfection is toxic. There is never a perfect body. Someone might say that the Victoria’s Secret models have perfect bodies… but is that true? Is it because they are presented as un-scarred or un-marked? Or is it because of the percentage of body fat on their tall frames? Tell me… what is the perfect number? There isn’t one.
The boudoir experience with Rachel and her team is all about seeing yourself in a way you have likely never seen yourself before. Your spouse will no doubt LOVE the results, but truly what you get is such a transformation in YOU. Some women don’t really have body image issues. At all. And that is super cool for them. We all need to get there. But most women really are heavily impacted by a lifetime of ‘not good enough,’ and I really love that Rachel’s team are showing everyday women just like me that we can look like models in a magazine. Without losing 10 pounds. Without photoshop making us ‘skinny’. Without having to get naked in front of a room full of guys.
It is such a fun and loving environment. I want to do this every year for the rest of my life to celebrate the woman I am growing into.
The best piece of advice I have for women considering booking a session with Rachel is: JUST DO IT. You wont regret it. You will feel so empowered and it will truly start you on a journey to self love. I literally practice Self Care Sunday every weekend now because I am WORTH IT. And to sum up my experiences with RJS I would say:
*Read the prep guides
*Take lingerie shopping seriously and invest in quality pieces
*Drink lots of water!
*Paypal Credit is your friend, lol
*Take care of your body; feed it well prior to your session and get plenty of sleep
*Do it for the right reasons; meaning- do it for you. Let your husband look at the album, but remember this experience is for you.
We need to validate ourselves. At the end of the day, it’s you in your own mind. No one else. You have to love what you see in the mirror no matter what. How do you expect someone to love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t love yourself? It’s so important.
For some people this may be something they only invest in once in their life, but I promise it’s so worth it.